Ep. 8- FIve Ways to Listen to Your intuition and Inner Voice

AJ, Hi friends. Welcome to this episode of The oh my goodness podcast with me. Aj, Smit, so today we're diving into intuition, inner knowing your inner voice. It's gonna be a good one. It's gonna be a big one. Buckle up. Get your journal out.

But I want to start us off by acknowledging that tuning in takes work. All of this is a practice. So if as you listen, you're like, oh, I should have done this, or, Oh, man, why can't I look at this information coming to you in the perfect just right time that you need it? What if we can trust that you've been doing the best you can do this whole time with the information? You know? Can we let that be true? Yeah, just take a big breath there and just release any should have, what it could've because here we are in this timeline, in this reality, to learn how we want to show up next, what deeper alignment here looks like, and how we can get that information.

I'm really excited, and I hope you are too. Okay, first off, we've talked about inner critic. If you're like inner critic, who's she? My friend. Great question. Go listen to the episode that I recorded about how to talk back to your inner critic, and that'll give you a lot of tools that are kind of the baseline for doing this work. So if you haven't listened to that yet, you can still listen to this one. Mm, one, but it might be a little bit easier if you've listened to that one first.

Okay, so we've got Barbara labeled like, Yep, you're not my inner voice as you go to sink down. Maybe we shouldn't start there.

When you're listening to the different voices in your head. It can get loud, right? And if you're like, AJ, I have no idea what you're talking about. You might be one of those people that don't hear any voices in your head and not like in a schizophrenic way. There are people who cannot picture things or hear things like hear music in their heads. So you might be one of those people. I don't know. Can you picture an apple? Can you picture like some people can see things, or some people can, like, imagine feeling them. Some people can only see, like, a 2d version of it.

Brains are different. It's really cool stuff. But sometimes we collect stories and ideas of what we should do, and then we hear that as responses in our brain, in our inside voice, is kind of what I call so as you're trying to discern, hey, what's my true inner voice? I don't know how to find the still small spirit, the still small voice. What does that look like? And if you're like, Oh, hey, like, I'm not talking to spirit right now, breathe.

This is multiple different avenues for you to tap in whatever you want. To label it at this moment, I believe spirit will take up whatever space we give her, and this is about getting you connected with you at the end of the day, so your inner core, your soul. So think about it that way. If you're like, I can't, that's okay, don't, don't worry about that right now. Just swipe that out so you can be present to get what you need.

Okay, so we've swiped on Brenda. We're like, yep, nope, that's not it. Then you might have a voice that comes up that's really loud. We got to do this, and we got to go now. And like, if we don't, everything's going to fall apart and everybody's going to hate us. And hello, fear. Thank you so much for your enthusiastic versions of what we should do next.

And, like, sometimes I'm just like, over it next, or sometimes I'm like, Okay, you can go watch Disney in the next movie. Like, just imagine fear. Is basically an excited 12 year old. If you've ever worked, you've ever worked with fifth graders, like, you know, they've got ideas. They're like, I'm getting on the hill. They've got lots of ideas. Basically, fear is fears. Like, we got to do it this way. Otherwise, butter. Oh my gosh. Thank you so much for your insight. I love it. Okay, go play. I got it. Don't worry, the adults are in the room.

If you're like, AJ, I don't feel like an adult. I know I'm 30, but I I hear you. I know, I know we're all just doing our best so but anyways, your fear is not allowed to drive. Elizabeth Gilbert has a book she wrote called Big Magic, creative living beyond fear, which I love and I recommend to everybody. Well, I should start doing Booker recommendations at the end of podcasts. Oh yeah, we're doing that. Okay, so big magic, by Liz Gilbert, it's probably at your local library. She talks about fear on a road trip. And so if you're collaborating with inspiration, with spirit, to do something creative, don't worry, I'm not going to tell the whole story. I'm just snapshot. She's like people think I'll do the thing once I don't feel any fear. And she cackles, and she says, Fear is on the road trip.

Fear is your body's way of trying to keep you safe. Safe not having fear is like, saying, like, don't break, don't have like, don't think ahead two steps. Like, fear is just your body's way, being like, Oh, wait, did you think about this? You know? And like, there's bubble, versus about, like, don't have a spirit of fear, all that jazz. And there's like, depth. There's different ranges of this, right? There's like, freezing fear to like, oh no. The idea here is that fear itself is just fear. Usually we fear the fear more than the fear of the actual thing. I know that's a little What's that movie with the they go through the things, I don't know. It's mental mind, screwy.

But anyways, but she's like, fear is going to be in the road trip. It's going to be in the car. So if it's in the car, cool, just can't drive. Non charging music, non charge snacks, non charger. Definitely the map. Put it in the back seat, in a baby carrier, flip it around, and put some Disney music or whatever it needs to watch. And occasionally be like, Okay, we're going to take a stop pretty soon so we can go to the bathroom. Go to the bathroom. Like, fears. Fear just wants to know that you're okay and you got it, and maybe you don't, because you're doing something new, that's okay.

You just say, Oh, we're trying something new. I don't know, but we'll figure it out when we get there. I've got wisdom, I've got friends, I've got spirit on my back. Like, does that make sense? So swipe on fear, because we might be like, but I need no, no, you don't trust me. Making choices from a place of fear is going to feel much more frenetic hazard, just frantic. No, just trust me. Okay, trust trust NT. AJ, so swipe, okay, your next one that might come up is like, Who do you think you are? You can't do that like, you've never done anything cool in your life. And like, even if you did, like, it wouldn't be great, but it and like nobody, if it sounds like a 15 year old, like mean girl, that's shame. That's shame.

Hi, Shane, thank you for being here today. Appreciate your input. Next swipe, you can go eat popcorn and M M's in the next room over with fear on the couch. Just imagine little burrito rolling them in little tortilla blankets next. Okay, I got this. It's fine. Thank you. Shame. Appreciate you. See you. We name it. Shining light on these different voices and parts takes away the power they get so loud and so big. And then if you're like, oh, that's shame.

Oh, okay, well, I don't need to listen to that right now. Thank you. Okay? And if it pops back, thank you so much. I got it. And this is a practice. It's really AJ, this is really hard. Yeah, of course it is. It's a practice. This takes time. This is years and years of work, right? But it gets easier the more you do it. So then after that, if you're like, going down, kind of like, sinking down. For me. I like my inner voice. It feels like in my diaphragm, feels like in my gut, feels like in my soul, kind of like in a mix of there. But I think of it as, like, going down, you're getting to that deep river voice, that true, good voice.

And if you're like, AJ, I have no deeper voice. I have worked. I've done this work. Oh gosh, it's got to be at least 1000 people at this point, which seems like a lot, but accurate, I have never met anyone who doesn't have a true inner voice. If they dig deep enough, if they do those the sorting work, they can usually tap it. Sometimes it takes a minute, but so just know that you've got goodness down there if you dig deep enough. And like, if your whole body is reacting like, this isn't a bad thing, but sometimes there's trauma attached to listening to our inner selves and like that might be an invitation to explore therapy or things like that, right?

So if you're like, Hey, I just need help digging in. Like, keep listening all that jazz. Either way, keep listening. But you can work with me one on one, but like, if it's deeper stuff, go talk to the therapist. Go talk to a trusted, confident or advisor, somebody that can walk with you as you kind of explore what's here and why that feels so big. So back to the diving it so as we're going down right, shame, fear.

Next, Okay, the next one that comes up is okay, but if you don't like this, then they are going to see this, and then he's going to see this, and then they're going to think that, and then you're going to be that person, because now they're like, if it's very fast, like, Rita Skeeter from Harry Potter vibes, or like, like, like a Buzzfeed always those articles, like, super fast and like, kind of Catty, but also like, Oh my gosh, what are people gonna think like a publicist, like a frantic, that's right, frantic celebrity publicist in the middle of a PR crisis, yeah, that voice, that's our it's messy. Hear me out.

That's your expectations of other people's expectations of yourself, what you think other people expect of you, but like, another layer, it'll like, just don't, it's it's messy. And here's the thing, half the people we think are thinking about us are not. People don't think about us near as much as we think we are. So like, you can chill. I remember the first time I put. Tarot on my personal Facebook. It wasn't even that long ago, and I had posted on my big personal pay or on my big professional page and in groups for like, a long time before that, but it was a big deal on my personal page, and I was like, people are gonna come after me, like my family, my friends, like, like, old church folks and stuff. You know what? I think I got like, two likes on that post, and nobody commented. I got no messages, no nothing. And I was like, we didn't die.

And like, nobody cared. And my friend was like, Aren't you upset that nobody commented? I was like, No, that's very freeing. Nobody's thinking about it. Nobody like, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. It's fine. It's fine. And it was just very liberating. And so if we can just a remember that other people are not our responsibility of what they think of us, also, you can't control that. Like when I tell you there are people who actively, really, really don't like me, you might be like what? It's true. It's true. If there, there are people who think I'm doing very bad work in the world. There are people who think I should shut down my entire business. I've been told these things, like, you can be doing things that you're like, This lights my soul up. I know I'm in alignment.

I'm showing up. And you have people that are in direct opposition, like, you're not going to please everybody, and you're like, but I want to make every want to make everybody have it girl, me too, me too, me too. And also, you don't have to do what I do and, like, try to please everybody and then hate it all, because you're trying to be everything to everyone. Can we just set that down? Could you just try setting that down and just be like, Hey, I actually, if you're like, I thought I value this, that's cool. Just set it down right now. And if you're like, AJ, can we get to the inner voice part?

This is part of the work, is allowing ourselves to set aside those other voices to go down, because sometimes we get so scared that we're like, but I'm blocking off a part of myself, or I don't want to say any part of me is bad or like but this is important, I know, and we're trying to get to the core. So part of this is the I know breathe, because you're creating capacity and breath in a space that was not there before, right? Okay, so you swipe on that. The next thing that usually comes up is a slimy voice. This is the one that trips us up because it doesn't always feel slimy. It's like whispery.

This is in Lord of the Rings. Oh, what's his name? Ear worm or something. I don't know. Worm, Tail worm, something. Anyways, vibes, not in the good kind. This is the Oh, you could do that if you weren't an absolutely terrible human. You would screw everything up if you showed up, because nobody actually loves you. And it sounds like it's this encouraging bedtime, at least. This is how mine's house, and this is how many people have sounded as they've related to me, it sounds like it should be this nice, calming voice. So you're like, oh, look, I found my still voice.

And then you're like, but it's shaming, and it's like, you're like, you're wilting in real time. And so if that voice comes up, we're just like, Oh, those are the lies we've believed about ourselves as truths, like we've taken societal expectations. We've taken things other people have told us, criticisms, constructors, construism and not constructive concern, like complaints. We've taken all of it and we've formatted it into this voice to make it easy to fall asleep to because we believe that. Hmm, you wonder why it sounds nice. That's how you soothe yourself when you're like, I'm not going after my stuff, because this is who I am. I can't do that because this is who I am. This is the box I need to stay in, because I could do that, but also I would screw it up, and I would ruin it, and everybody would be disappointed in me.

So this is where I need to stay so I can keep everybody else safe. Oh, I hope you you see how the way we talk to ourselves keeps us constrained. And this morning, I was recording the voice chapter of my book, because I'm recording the audiobook, which is so fun, and I'm so excited to see what y'all hear, because I feel a little bit like a like a late night Jazz Radio host of like, welcome to I mean, I guess that's also the podcast, but with the book, it feels special. It feels cool to reflect on it. But something I said in I made an author's note in there, is that oftentimes we're like, Yeah, but listening to my inner voice and that kindness like these things keep me like this for other people, because everybody else likes me like this. Okay, cool, as Liz Gilbert says liberation is not a one way street. Second we think, okay, I can be kind to other people, or I can say nice things about other people.

I can assume the best that their soul is good, but not mine. But. So in this world where fascists are rising in real time, where cruelty is being doled out like tickets at an arcade game, where harmful words are being spoken over people daily, let us not do the dehumanization that is happening to ourselves. Let us not do their job for them, if their goal is to make you exhausted and burnt out and desperate for approval from them. No you need to be rooted in something better than other people's approval or expectation of who they want you to be. Do you see how that can be a very, very slippery slope if you are not deeply rooted into your soul, to who you are, to who spirit made you to be, whatever that means for you.

So that's why we do this work, and for when it's like, yeah, but this is like self care, is it, though, because usually we've been taking care of everybody else, like we've done this community care. I've worked with enough women to know they're in community. They're taking care of their people, but they're not taking care of themselves. Or maybe they are, but they need to up it to another level for the way that they want to up their lives, right? So when we're adding this joy, when we're adding this spaciousness, when we're saying, okay, hey, I'm letting this go of the truths that I thought were true, but maybe they're lies, but also, this has kept me safe, this has helped me belong. This has helped me be secure. This has helped me land jobs. This has helped me don't be too much. Don't Don't Don't be too loud. Don't be too shiny. Don't be too Right, right?

And so there, our bodies can almost react as if there might be danger when we listen to our inner voice. Because, like y'all, once you listen, once you hear, you can't always unhear. I mean, you can, but like you'll feel that nudge, you know, that nudge in the middle of the night that wakes you and says there's something more than this. Hey, listen. Do you hear that there's goodness here? Hey, you shouldn't be in this relationship. Hey, this job, there's something more for you. Hey, start that podcast. Hey, that nudge is there. You can drown it out. It's, it's remarkably easy sometimes and sometimes remarkably hard. But the more you listen, the easier it is to listen.

Because if you're like, I don't know how to do this, that's okay. Remember, what is it? It's a practice. You're right. Okay. So then pass that. There might be other things that come up, but that's that's the main voices for everybody.

So swipe anything else that's sticky, loud, whatever. What's left should be a voice that goes, Hi, hello,that it almost feels like you're in a forest, and maybe you can even imagine yourself right now in a forest with a babbling like Brook, and you're sitting next to it, and you can hear the like animals in the forest, and like the kind of like light Daybreak kind of way, or in the afternoon with the golden sunlight coming in, it's like 5pm and it's perfect. It's like 75 degrees, which, for my European friends, is just nice. It's like a light sweater in shorts or pants. It's that way you feel when you step your feet into the ocean and you go, Oh, hi, where you look up to the sky and the sunlight dances on your face, and the wind caresses you, and you feel I am home.

Maybe it feels like when you're around mountains or with people, but it's that space of breath where you go, okay, even if you had a really bad day, maybe you made a big mistake. It's that voice that doesn't shame and it just goes, Yeah, that was big. That was hard. Let's go take a shower. Let's go do the next ring thing. Tomorrow's a new day. That's that voice that even when you're like, oh my gosh, what do I do? And all this stuff. So we could do this, or we could do this, but you actually really want x, and then you're like, yeah, yeah, I do. I do want that, but I can't do that, because what do you need? What do you does that make sense of the difference.

And I, I hope you can hear it energetically, because I can see it and I can hear it, but I also have the memory of everybody I've done this work with that, the way the energy feels for fear with and shame of how dare you butter and other people's faces you've got to go because mentally, where. Fast and then yeah, but you suck and you're terrible to the Yeah, I know, but tomorrow's a new day. We can keep going.

Do you see the difference of how it feels, how your body relaxes? That's how you know, like, that's how you know. It's your inner voice. That's how you know. That's how you know. Okay, so now we got you connected to your inner voice. When we talk about intuition, that can show up in your head, it can show up in your heart, show up in your gut, the Enneagram research on this is actually kind of really cool about the different numbers, and I don't remember which numbers, maybe I should have got that information for you, but if you're curious, you can search it.

So some people are like, I just, I know, I just get the download. I just, Spirit speaks to me. God speaks. I just hear it. I know. I go, I I'm a free elf. And like the Claires, clairsentience, Clair awareness, Claire sent. That's a whole different conversation, right? So I'm talking about just like, that intuitive sense of like, this is our next race up.

Some people, like Ayesha, I wrote this in my book. She feels it in her heart. People always talked about feeling in your gut, and she's like, No, I just feel this in my heart. Of like, it gets like, expanded, of like, yes, this, or like, no. Other people feel it in the gut, like some people get, like, really feel it in the god, they're like, I vomit everywhere, if it's a no, you know, like, some people have very strong reactions. And also the way that your heart and brain and gut are connected neurally, like your nerves. It's so interesting. It's so cool. But so if you're like, I don't ever feel in my gut, I feel in my heart so like this doesn't know that that's how you're wired.

Cool, go, Ting go. What does your yes feel like? What does your no feel like? If you're like, I don't know, okay, let me ask you a question. I want you to think of a time when you felt the nudge to do something and you were like, should I sign up for this trip? I don't know. Like, oh, I really want to reminds me of my friend Marja Lynn. She went to college of Wizardry. Gosh, this was back 2016 maybe, and she posted a photo. And I was like, you what? You went to a college in Poland and, like, You got to be a wizard for a weekend. This is amazing. And my whole body, like, lit up. And I was like, I gotta go. We gotta go. And I told Cher, and he's like, we gotta go. And I was like, I know, I agree. We were living in Germany at the time, so much easier. But we went and it was me, but it was just this immediate Yes. My whole body was like, obviously, yes.

So what is a moment for you? And I'll pause for a fact. I mean, or you can pause me if you need more time to think that you were like, Yes, this is good. People were like, go to Chili's. And you're like, south to say, girls, yes. You know, we're like, will you marry me? Yes. Do you want to have a baby? Yes. Do you want to go to those colors? You colors? Yes. What was your Yes. How do you know? How did it feel? Where did you feel that in your body or your energetic body? Cool. Good work. Send me a comment.

Throw it in, embodied in joy. My free Facebook group. Come tell us the goodness. Okay, now for your No, my body is no, my number is No, my name anyways, what's your no? When was the time that your body or your nudge was like, I don't know. No, no, don't do this. And you were like, it's fine, it's fine. And then everything hit the fan. You're like, maybe I should have listened. Maybe I knew I knew. How did you know? How, how, what did that feel like? If you're like, I knew I should have done that. How?

And you're like, AJ, you're hampering on this. No, I'm hampering on how you felt it. Because once you know how it feels, how a no feels in your body, then you can see it and feel it and acknowledge it when it happens in the future of like, oh, this is my No. Oh, that's interesting. Why is my nose showing up in my body right now? What's going on? Whoa, hey. Why? What? What's here? Because it's like you're getting to know another layer of you, your subconscious, will speak in whatever avenue you allow it.

You are a soul. You are a human in this body. That's like collaborating on your mind, body and spirit level. This is why I talk about embodiment, because it's all three. It's all three, it's all three. It's not either or it's not either or so if you get it all online, everything gets so much easier and so much clearer. So what's your no? What's your experience? What you got with that?

And maybe you listened, you were like, No, that doesn't sound great. And then you were like, oh, dodged that bullet, right? Or maybe it said no, and then you went ahead, and they were like, my bad. Either way. Note that in your body, the other one I want you instinct wise and intuition wise to be aware of is that feels off. Something's off. For me, I know something feels off when my shoulders rise, when my head tilts and my shoulder rise, and I'll like, put my hand on my heart, and I'll like, it's like, almost like I got a crick in a neck. And so if I find myself for no reason. Reason. Or I'm, like, thinking something over and I catch myself, like rolling my neck and like rolling my shoulder, it's my signal to myself. I either need more information.

Something's off here that I can't put my finger on, or this is not right right now. Like, it's the ah, do I want to? I guess I could. But, like, maybe, and then you're trying to convince yourself. So, like, first off, if you're, like, in that middle and somebody's waiting on you to make a decision, you literally can be like, Hey, give me a few days to think about this, and you just sleep on this. Hey, if you're somebody who bleeds, hey, let me bleed on it.

I'll get back to you. Because, remember how we talked about your four phases of your menstrual cycle, and that, like, you have that deep awareness on your cycle of truth and not truth, which is also why I'm loving doing some of the recordings I'm doing lately on my cycle, on my period, because I feel like potency coming through. I'm not mincing my words these last three podcast episodes, if you're like, oh, AJ, like, she's on leash. I'm also taking this course by Rachel Maddux, and it's blowing my mind anyways, but there's that off feeling that sometimes we're like, Is this because I ate bad I was about to say rice, but rice is usually pretty good. This is because I ate some bad eggs or bad meat or something like a bad meal, or is it because something about the situation doesn't feel right?

So tune in to a time that you were just like, ah, something's off here that you just maybe it's not even a bad off. Sometimes things can be off because they're like, do you want to come to a party? And you're like, when? For who, when, what time for what, how many people are going to be there? Right? If you tell me, Hey, do you want to go to a party on a week that I'm very busy, I might be like, No, I'm good. And they're like, well, the party's next week, and it's going to be at the beach, and we're going to have a bonfire, and we're gonna, like, have a little song moment, whatever.

And I'm like, Oh, well, that sounds fabulous. I'm totally, do you see how, like, that energy totally shifted once I got more information. But for this week, I know, when is it we need more information. What does that feel like in your body? Because your intuition is trying to help you, but it's also layering all your past experiences into this moment to help you make the next right choice. So your intuition is like, Oh, hey, here's what things happened in the past. Here's things we need to know. Yes, no, maybe. So, right. Okay, moving on.

There's this thing called Bone resonance. Oh, we need to have an episode about values. That's a whole other conversation. But one of my big values is bone resonance. And in my book, I call this knowing, because Glennon Doyle wrote in her book untamed about this knowing, the glow, the golden glow, right of like that when you just radiate and like, Oh, okay. I just need to brag for a second, because when my clients are in their glow, it is the coolest thing ever.

When you're connected into your in your knowing and your inner voice, you have a glow about you, like this radiance that just like ebbs when you're connected with spirit and you're trusting your soul is good, like, and you're like, you're on purpose, and you're acting in alignment, like, it's like, the best thing ever. I have no chill about it anytime, and so I think of it like bone resonance. There's a vibration that I feel when something is aligned, when it is a moment or an opportunity or a thing, like, I feel this about glitter sometimes, like there's the sparkly shimmer, because I don't want us to think like it's always the big things like this can be about the little things too.

Like, I just got note cards that I was like, Ah, no, not these, not these, not these. And then I saw some that were like watercolor, and I was like, yes, that like, yes. That's, I mean, a lesser version of bone resonance, but it's like, that's aligned. That's a yes. I don't even have to tap in, because my body goes like it vibrates, it resonates. What are the things that resonate? How do you know when you have resonance? When I'm in red tent, God, our full, full resonance is better than sliced cheese. It's it's sacred. It's sacred space.

For me, bone resonance looks like the way I use my words, the way I'm doing this podcast, of trying to record when it is aligned and when the things are flowing through and I'm feeling connected by spirit. I'm not like, oh, I have to record a podcast episode. Now, there are weeks I missed in the beginning because I was traveling, and also like I didn't, maybe didn't plan ahead, but also like it wasn't aligned in that moment, right? So now. Kind of recording, some extra when I'm in the moment, when I'm in the zone, so that it has that extra resonance in it, of like, here is goodness. Does that make sense?

So what does your resonance look like? Okay, here is a part about inner voice that I think is a sticky situation, and this might need to be its own podcast episode, but I want to touch on it, because instincts can be very helpful, and they can totally trip us up, because your body stores replays. It's like an old blockbuster that, like plays trailers for movies like 20 years ago.

And so your instincts may tell you like, Oh no, there's a there's a rock up ahead, or you're going to trip ahead if you're in a new friendship, or things like this, because it's saying, like, hey, the last friendship we were in ended really poorly because XYZ and they both have curly hair. And you're like, that's unhelpful instincts, but your instincts are on full alert. That's then your work to be like, okay, hey, like, what's here? Can I have more information? If your instincts are just like, I just don't want to be hurt again, it's like, okay, hey, we're safe. This is scary new this is a new friendship. She's not the same as the other girl, right?

So when our instincts go on full alert, sometimes something is scary, bad and we need to do TFO, I have a tendency of looking at red flags and being like, you know, if we put some sparkles on it, I bet it'll be fine. I know if you just scoffed out loud, I'm with you, because I just, like, shake my head at some very big yellow and red flags that I have missed over the years that I'm like, if I would have paused for two seconds and actually listened to intuition that was like, something's off here, and I did not pause for information.

Y'all, the amount of tears and, like sleepless nights. If I can save you anything by teaching you to just pause and listen and ask for more information. Cool, cool. May you not have to deal with the red flags. I mean, we all do. It's human, but like and this even goes for our own stuff. Let's just cross out other people entirely. When you're taking actions that are aligned or not aligned.

When you're like it's fine, is it, though, when you're over committing, when we're not getting that sleep, when we're not moving our bodies and we know that we need to, or we're not tending to a relationship that we know that we need to or we're avoiding a conversation. We're avoiding spirit. We're avoiding ourselves. Do you see what I'm saying? Like there's things that put us in or out of alignment with ourselves? This is work we do here in our own home. The call is coming from inside the house. Before you invite anybody else into it, when we invite other people into it, it gets messy. It gets sticky. So listen to your instincts, but also, like, bring the salt, pass the salt, because sometimes instincts, she's reactive. She's a very reactive, spicy vibe.

If you just go off your instincts, you will be very quick to judge, and you will be very quick to leave, and you will be very quick to label. And sometimes we need to hustle out of a room, sometimes we need to go. You will know, but let your instincts show you what you need to be aware of to keep your eyes open for. Does that make sense? Because sometimes we say no, no, instincts like, it's fine, but maybe this person is doing something that you're like, Oh, that's not my favorite.

Okay, you're gonna maybe just be an acquaintance for now, and maybe they change, or maybe they shift, or maybe you're like, okay, hey, like, everything's good. You had an issue with a different friend, and that's why that situation is weird, but we're good. Does that make sense? Like, instincts can show us things to be aware of that, then we need to get more information in and explore. But it doesn't have to be. It like a full judgment sentence. And sometimes we take our instincts and we're just, I just don't like it. I was like, Okay, I mean, that's fine. But also, like, why? What's here? You've never been here before. We just walked in. I just don't Okay, okay, cool. But if you can put some more language onto it, it can help you fine tune and find the nuance in what's going on that you don't like. Let me know if that makes sense, or if you need more clarity.

Throw it in the comments below, because I don't want to keep want to keep hamping on it. If you're like, I got it, I got it. Okay. This is all a practice. It's all a practice. And also, I encourage you, as you listen, to start practicing it out loud with people that it feels safe to do so in so you can come to embodied and join be like, here are things that I'm noticing or feeling with my intuition, or ways I listened to my intuition or didn't listen to my intuition. Now I know it's all a practice, and that's okay.

And like for reference, it took me, gosh, I started deconstructing. I mean, I started asking faith questions in like, 2013 in college, when I met a bunch of my burlesque queer friends and I. Is like, Yeah, but y'all are great humans. But I didn't start really deconstructing my faith until 2016 I think 2015 and then that just kind of started rolling the ball more and more and more as I started asking more and more questions, but pulling apart the threads between God's voice, my mom's voice, my pastor's voice, my voice, society's voice, patriarchal voice, good Christian girl. Voice Iowa, voice traveler. Voice like, all these different military spouse. Voice like, there's all these. Like, who you should be, what this looks like, spirits. Voice like, I was like, too many go sit down. We're taking numbers, right? Like this, work takes time. I am so clear now because I did years of this work of sorting and being like, What? What? No, that can't, that can't be my true inner voice, okay. No, no, okay. That feels shaming, okay, but it feels like it's practice.

It's a practice, and there's no way out other than through or not doing the work. But if you're here, if you're listening to this, I'm assuming it's because you want to show up in your life with more resonance, more bone knowing, more alignment, in a way that brings you joy versus forcing, more flow, less force. And like sometimes we gotta break down a door, but a lot of times more the ones locking the doors on ourselves. So let's unlock the door. Let's be kind to ourselves. Let's speak some kind words, and let's tune in and remember if it's loud, if it's angry, if it's slimy, if it's like whispering in a weird, creepy way, if it feels like there might be horror music attached to it, or rushing like, Dun dun dun, dun, dun dun. Like warrior music, or like Rush Hour music. Like next next, next exercise.

There's goodness here that that go for the thing that feels like I'm safe, because you are worthy of goodness and love and delight, and I'm proud of you, and you've got this today. So go take care of yourself. Go twirl around. Throw on some red lipstick, wear some sparkles. Make a joke. Win. Get yourself in the mirror. Try something new, and try the song and let me know how it goes. Sing your soul song, friends and have a marvelous day.